Friday, April 8, 2011

How about ...

How about ...

  • ...firmly, resolutely, dig-our-heels-in stubbornly, even in the face of grave provocation, absolutely REFUSING to judge another human being?

  • ...cutting out every disrespectful word in our speech - every single little cotton-pickin' instance, whether conscious or unthinking, deliberate or flippant, justified or not?


  1. Sree, How about that! Shit, the whole friggin world would change instantly. It's mind boggling. There'd be no revolutions and of course, there'd be no repression against which to revolt. How about that!

    There'd be no law suits or counter suits or... or... lawyers.

    There'd be more art and music and space exploration and food and beauty and love and...

    How about that.

  2. There wouldn't be more art: a lot of art are created from anger and hate.

    There wouldn't be no lawsuites - unless everybody would chose to do the same.

    And that would be the cool thing:

    How about stop judging - regardless of what everybody else did.

    Isn't that one of the most difficult judgments to let go of: not judging people who are judgemental?

  3. I agree, Frack; not judging judgmental people has been one of my toughies. But in general, not judging is the most rewarding when all your buttons are being pushed, so to speak.

    Tef: Actually, I wasn't thinking big; I was only wondering how it would be if just one person - I, you, whoever - did that, not the whole world. That would be a minor miracle right there, let alone if everybody did that. Imagine not needing lawyers. Halleluia!

  4. Sree, I was thinking more about your post tonight and it occurred to me that it's relatively easy not to judge another person (well maybe not). Nonetheless, after you're done judging someone, the trick is to not displace the judgment of her with the judgment of yourself for having judged her.

    It's like squeezing all the air out of an air mattress or a raft. It's so easy to confuse annihilation and displacement, e.g., I believe I've eradicated judgment when in fact I've simply moved it somewhere else.

    All of this of course assumes that judgment is "bad". I would assert that without judgment, we would cease to exist. It's not about "not judging", it's about judging positively.

    Strike that. I think the first step simply involves judging "deliberately". Once we get to the point of no "inadvertent" judgments, we can move on to whether or not they're positive.

    I think?

  5. Tef: I just noticed this last comment of yours (the "Last Comments" section hasn't been showing up lately on the computer I use most of the time). I think you're on the same track as I was (I won't call it 'right' or 'good'). I was using judgment to mean labeling as bad or wrong, which is how most people tend to use the word. "Judging positively" is, by definition, choosing an assessment that brings about some benefit. As for "not judging" ... hmmm... I would go as far as to say it doesn't need to be a goal, but I'm not sure we would cease to exist. In the process of perception, observation comes before assessment, but due to the trigger-happy judgment 'finger' most of us have, the observation is incompletely or incompetently done. If we could add space and leisure to the observation and the subsequent assessment, and then add awareness to the judgment step, that would make a huge difference. In fact, just being able to say "this event is bad *for me*" - simply recognizing that there are others in the picture - would take much of the sting out of the judgment.


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