Friday, March 19, 2010

Bold, big love

Every Friday until November 7, 2010 you will find entries from a series written by Iris about her training to run the New York marathon in 2010. It is something she never aspired to do; she has never run a distance of more than two kilometers in her life. In this series she describes her adventures and how she works on her beliefs to transform her challenges and successes into one great experience.

It's Thursday evening and I am typing this blog while watching the sun go down. The sky is orange and beautiful. From my lazy chair I have an incredible view that seems so much more amazing to me tonight. I am totally aware and it seems that this sunset was specially painted for me personally.

Sitting in my chair I am wondering about my life, the world, our experiences and how we interpret them. It's one of those philosophical moments in which many things are thought, and it is a moment in which I feel very grateful for my life. I am grateful for who I am today. In my thirty-seven and a half years I have walked many roads. The last seven years I have mainly walked new unknown roads with my hubby Teflon, creating our amazing future on the spot.

Making Miracles
I must tell you, we are miracle makers. We see, choose and decide without holding on to what we have. We like moving towards what we want at full speed! If this means leaving our house, or changing our jobs, or traveling around the world, or taking loans to support others with what we have, we do it without hesitation.

One thing that makes us miracle makers is that we "love". We love each other deeply; we love other people deeply; we love a challenge; we love helping people; we love doing creative new things; we love change and we love to change; we love life and everything in it. We love what is and what will come and we believe that what will come is going to be beautiful.

Today I spent my day talking to families with autism, working with one of my wonderful little friends in his playroom and doing a couple of dialogues with amazing people. And at the end of the day I was not burned out or tired, but I felt full of gratitude and love for the people I worked with. People are the most amazing mammals in the world, so inspiring, creative and fun.

Sometimes things do not go our way. My leg injury that I ran into a couple of weekends ago did not disappear. A full-blown inflammation is still keeping me tied to walking and biking instead of running. But the funny thing is that I am not upset.

I start to get ready to go back to running. My mind clearly wants to run. But my body says something else. Teflon and I talked about this inflammation and we came to the conclusion that my cardiovascular system has really strengthened, but that my muscles are running behind in gaining strength. So, this week I am signing up for a gym to have some machines help me focus on this and show this inflammation the door.

When things do not the way we expect, we find alternatives, and we try new things. We follow the path that opens up, but instead of blindly walking it, we influence, we change, we create and we end up where we want.

Making It Big!
I'm reading what I wrote in this article and I realize that I am practicing something that I explained to one of my clients today. I told this person that when you look at addressing a challenge, you go into the details and cut everything in small, specific pieces. It helps you to see what the challenge is about and to see that there are simple steps you can take to overcome it. However, when you are not working on a challenge, but working on making your happiness and positivity bigger, the skill is to create your beliefs in a big way. Forget about specifics, get big and general!
Here an example. I could have said, I love Teflon. But instead I wrote, "We love deeply!"

Saying that we love deeply is a way bigger statement of love in my life. In comparison with the first statement it seems unbreakable, tangible, vibrant. Ahhhh. Love...

So, I would like to know, how often and in which situations you make your happiness fueling beliefs big and general? Do you allow yourself to make your skills, abilities and passions big? Or, do you qualify them and apologize for them? When was the last time that, in describing yourself, you used words like amazing, awesome, wonderful or great?

I'd love to hear from you and your amazing description of you!



  1. Reading about your sunset reminded me of new york marathon. I had hardly been running the previous 3 months because of back problems so I was in no shape to do a marathon - but I did - and it did take a loooooong time. On my way down 5th av. along the park my body was acking - and I could no longer concentrate just on my breathing and the way I used my body since the pains were too intense - instead I directed all my concentration on the outside - people who were still cheering - and a beautiful, beautiful sunset behind the park and the skyline.

    Half way throuhg the marathon I decided that I was going to finish against all odds - and it felt good knowing that I could do it, and that I could enjoy myself. This was a reminder for me of how big intense experiences we get when we make clear decisions and go for what we want "with no apology" - but with a clear understanding of our choises and our reasons for our choise.

    Big deep love is one expression. Intense preseness is what I am looking for.

  2. Yum, just enjoying Keanu Reeves and Charlese Thereon again in 'sweet november.'

  3. Being present is a great virtue! See also Barbara's blog posted Sun. March 21. I notice that I enjoy running most when I am able to be present and not think about what is coming what is past, how far I still have to go etc. The moments where I observe the smells and the views and everything is beautiful are the yummy moments! BW: I must confess that I have not seen Sweet November. Is this a romance blooming under gorgeous sunsets?


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